Blog Title: Blame vs. healing

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How did this happen?
How did this happen?

One of my personal wishes and goals for the human race in this time of incredible uncertainty, turmoil and, for many, real fear is that we leave the blame game behind and reclaim a stake in our own lives.  Instead of pointing the finger and blaming everyone we can for our downfall, we need to take a good look in the mirror and accept that we all make mistakes – this is how we as human beings learn, grow and heal ourselves.

This applies to all areas of our life – family, friends, relationships, career, financial, personal, etc.  What do you do in the case of a failed relationship for instance?  Do you automatically blame your partner for the failure because they didn’t try hard enough, didn’t treat you right, didn’t appreciate what you have to offer, misunderstood you?  Or are you able to look at how you might have contributed to the break-up?  In your family, are you where you are because your siblings were given more opportunities, are older, younger, more loved than you?  In your workplace, did your co-worker get that promotion because you weren’t given the opportunity to show how worthy you are, or because your boss just doesn’t understand the challenges you are dealing with on a daily basis?

In my view, this culture of placing blame rather than accepting our mistakes was put in place by lawyers and insurance companies who are there to help you prove that your downfall is the fault of someone else.  When my teenage daughter was 2, we were shopping at the local supermarket one day when she tripped over her own foot and fell on her face.  The lady at the check-out stand immediately approached me and my screaming child to ask if I would like to fill out a claim form.  At first, I didn’t understand what she meant.  Call me naive, but my child had just had an “accident”, why would I want to blame someone else?  If I were to go down that road and assign fault, what would that teach my daughter?  She certainly wouldn’t learn that she if she’s more careful with her feet, she’s less likely to fall on her face.  She wouldn’t be given the opportunity to look at what happened and heal herself, instead she would be stuck waiting for someone else to make it all better, because it was not her fault.

We are told that we learn from our mistakes, however, if we are never allowed to make a mistake because it is always someone else’s fault, how can we be expected to learn, grow and heal.

It may not always be easy to accept our mistakes – in fact it can be downright painful looking in the mirror at times.  But if we can get through the humiliation, embarrassment or shame, we can start to release the energy of whatever went wrong - we can begin to heal ourselves and move forward.

Intuitive Touch Healing can assist you in releasing energy from past mistakes, problems, grudges – anywhere you might be stuck in the blame game and unable to move forward.  Intuitive Touch Healing can help you get back in the driver’s seat and take back control of your life – you no longer have to be a victim and point the finger.  I recommend you give it a try.  You might find you feel 10 lbs. lighter when you no longer have to carry that negativity with you!

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